1. Food
Send to a Friend via Email
You can opt-out at any time. Please refer to our privacy policy for contact information.

Readers Respond: At What Age Should Kids Be Allowed to Eat Cakes Made with Liqueur and/or Liquor?

Responses: 56



When I was 12 my moms friends baked her a rum cake for her birthday a nd I ate too much... I felt sick and drowsy, my mom soon fiqured it out. So you probably shouldnt let your kids have some by that strory always makes me laugh!
—Guest June

Good Lord!

Whether it's evaporated or not, the amount of alcohol they get in a small slice is minimal at best. I have ALWAYS invited my children to taste my confections!! Now 14 & 9, they really don't prefer the taste. My daughter tasted the raw batter (oh no raw egg! Lol) & she turned up her nose. My son (14) says "This isn't going to make me drunk, is it Ma?" Haha. Let them enjoy the varieties, especially around the holidays, as you are creating innocent, life long memories for them--what could be better?? I have always tasted the alcohols in recipes as a child, and wine at the dinner table, and guess what?? I'm an very rare occasional drinker!! Go figure! Come on peeps, get real!!
—Guest Laura

alcohol in baking/cooking

Sorry to burst your bubble but alcohol DOES NOT get cooked out when baking cakes or adding to sauces/gravy the ONLY way the alcohol is removed is if you put a flame to it and burn it off, then and only then are you left with just the flavor. Stop getting sucked into the rumors.
—Guest Chef-Telling the truth


My sis in law won't allow her kids to have any dessert with alcohol that isn't cooked. I say whatever, it's not like I'm giving them a glass and saying drink up hun! I will be making a butter rum cake as a birthday cake for Christmas this year and both of my children will eat a piece. I doubt my sis in law will allow her kids to have any. to each their own
—Guest Christy

Helicopter parents...

are screwing up their kids! Really people, the alcohol is cooked out and the flavor is what you get. Anyone who thinks their kid is going to get drunk or become an alcoholic from a piece of rum cake is a complete idiot.
—Guest Puhleeze

and the correct answer is . . .

I'm as careful and conservative as can be and I can tell you authoritatively that the alcohol in the batter bakes out and the alcohol in the drizzle IS the steam you see escape immediately when you add the rum. My mother made this cake and it is a winner. People freak out over how good it is. Try it! = )
—Guest definitiveanswer

what's the difference??

What's the difference between a rum cake and fruit cake? No one ever mentions the alcohol in fruit cakes? Unless my family is just weird, my grandmother makes her fruitcake around Tanksgiving and pours brandy over the top of it every other day and serves it at Christmas. I don't hear anyone fussing about the fruitcake!!
—Guest hollyberrietree

It's only the flavor!

The alcohol is cooked out. Seriously, I can't believe people don't know this.
—Guest Guest


I agree totally with most respondents. As a child alcohol was not forbidden or bad in my house. I can remember taking sips as young as 2 or 3. My parents had a drink or two with friends but it was not a nightly or even weekly thing. Since it was not forbidden to me, I never had a problem with drinking. I was usually the designated driver for my sloshed friends who never saw much less tasted alcohol at home. Give the kids a piece.
—Guest Mary S

Its simple

To people getting over hyped about the fact that it has rum in it, consider that its half a cup (4oz, ~2-4 shots depending on glass), spread out over a cake meant for 16. theyre much worse things than 1/4th of an oz of rum (about 2 thimbles at the most), theyre much more likely to become an alcoholic if never exposed to alcohol, than if they are allowed to simply get a taste/sip of it to settle their curiosity.
—Guest Jc

It's not the alcohol!

Personally, I wouldn't be crazy about my kids eating this cake, but not because of the small amount of alcohol. The recipe I'm seeing calls for tons of sugar and pudding mix: artificial flavoring and dye land mine. That being said, I grew up having a slice if liquor cake at Christmas, my parents educated me about alcohol, allowing me a glass of wine with them at dinner from about 16 on. I didn't fall into the trap of college drinking and I continue to enjoy wine moderately. I have allowed my 6 yr old a sip, so she understands it's bitter and she doesn't care for it, but it's not a forbidden pleasure.
—Guest M

Responsible Parenting

Being Jewish, we had wine at every holiday and my parent's would let me sip it starting at a very young age. I have never had an alcohol problem and in fact very rarely even have a glass of wine, so the fact that we feel that a small dose of rum baked in or glazed on a cake could harm a child is preposterous! My daughter is almost five and I will let her have a small piece...my one year old son however is another story...then again, he is teething LOL.
—Guest Areyouserious

miss p

It doesn't matter whether you are baking or cooking on the stove the alchol evaporates and leaves just the flavoring behind. Any age is appropriate to eat this cake.

at what age should kids be allowed

when the kid's can go buy their own rum then they can eat this cake
—Guest shunda

Absurdity of drinking laws

Personally, I grew up eating rum cake at nearly every large family gathering and being allowed small amounts of champagne at New Year. I've grown up to have a balanced approach to alcohol because my parents do. With my son, I do the same. Drinking laws - especially the outrageous ones in the US - are absurd and irresponsible. My child should learn about liquor from his mother and father and not some irresponsible, stupid, slightly older college dorm mate. For one as his parents, we are responsible for his safety and are experienced enough to be able to tell when enough is enough. We have a right to go take further measures to prevent certain behavior. Roommates have no such obligation to each other. Eliminating drinking laws and putting the responsibility on the parents - where it belongs - to teach kids about alcohol will curb much of the undesirable behavior of the 16- to 24-year-old lot. You puritanical nuts are just going to screw up your kids. I say... let them eat cake.
—Guest Raevynnia

What Do You Think?

At What Age Should Kids Be Allowed to Eat Cakes Made with Liqueur and/or Liquor?

Receive a one-time notification when your response is published.

©2014 About.com. All rights reserved.